The Reason So Many Women Think They Haven’t Got the Strength to Leave a Wrong connection…

You tell yourself you’re exhausted yet you don’t have the energy to walk away.

You hope that maybe if you just hold on a little longer, things will shift.

But what if the reason you feel so drained isn’t because you lack strength

but because you’re using every ounce of it to hold onto something that was never built to hold you back?

You don’t call it a relationship. It never quite made it there. But it could have. And that possibility keeps you hooked.

You tell yourself you’re “seeing where it goes,” but deep down, you already know. 

You’re managing expectations, self-soothing, trying to convince yourself that this time is different, when the truth is, you’re caught in a cycle you promised yourself you wouldn’t repeat.

And that cycle has nothing to do with him.

It has everything to do with who you believe you are in love, AKA your identity.

💡 Here’s the truth: You are not an emotional mess. You are not “too much.” You are not asking for the impossible.

But right now, the version of you showing up in love is still the woman who adapts instead of chooses. 

The woman who feels safest when she’s earning love rather than receiving it effortlessly.

 The woman who is deeply independent and high achieving, yet craves a connection that actually meets her instead of draining her.

And I know this, because I’ve helped women just like you break free from this loop, not by giving them more self-help strategies, but by shifting who they are at the core.

✨ This is what identity work does. ✨

It doesn’t just teach you how to leave a disappointing connection. It rewires your brain so you no longer feel drawn to them in the first place.

Because here’s what no one else is telling you:

Your love life will never change at the level of knowledge. It only shifts at the level of identity.

You can read all the books. You can memorise every attachment style. You can know your worth logically.

But if, at your core, you are still identifying as the woman who has to work for love, you will continue attracting situations where love feels like a job.

💡 The version of you who effortlessly attracts commitment already exists. She’s the part of you that knows this isn’t what she deserves.

The only question is: Are you ready to meet her?

(And when you are, that’s exactly what I do.)

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