Meet Your Relationship Mentor
Helping ambitious women build self-worth, emotional safety, and deeply fulfilling connections.
Hi, I’m Sam – relationship mentor, speaker, best-selling author, and woman who’s walked the path of painful relationships
I support incredible women who feel unseen or undervalued in love, friendships, or family. Together, we heal the patterns holding you back so you can stop settling and start thriving in every relationship, beginning with yourself.
My Story - From Surviving to Secure
Thirteen years of domestic violence left me with a brain injury, single parenting two children, and fear as a constant companion. I knew I deserved more, but knowing and believing felt worlds apart.
I had built success in so many areas of life, except my intimate relationships. And then came the breakthrough: the relationship I had with myself was shaping every other connection around me.
When I finally did the deep inner work, healing my anxious attachment, rebuilding safety in my body, and rewriting the story I was living — everything changed.
I went from surviving to truly thriving. My children flourished. I found love that honours my strength and softness. My friendships became joyful, not draining. I stopped settling and started receiving.
Now, I guide other women through that same transformation. Because when you change the relationship you have with yourself, every relationship around you begins to reflect that shift.
Why I Do This Work
Because you don’t need more surface-level advice or TikTok tips that tell you to “just raise your vibe” or “manifest harder.” You need a grounded, proven path that gets to the root of what’s going on and helps you shift from the inside out.
I created The Secure Identity Method™ to help you do just that. My method combines deep emotional healing and identity work with practical tools to:
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Rewire limiting beliefs at the subconscious level
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Heal emotional blueprints through inner child work
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Regulate your nervous system so you feel safe in your body
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Rebuild self-trust, boundaries, and emotional clarity
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Attract relationships that feel aligned, respectful, and loving
This isn’t about fixing yourself, it’s about coming home to who you truly are.
What I Stand For
I built my work on six core values that guide every client interaction and every decision I make:
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Kindness: The foundation of every meaningful relationship
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Connection: Everyone deserves to feel seen, heard, and understood
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Respect: Differences don’t diminish value – I honour every story
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Integrity: I follow through on my word – always
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Trust: Mutual trust is non-negotiable
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Empowerment: You leave every interaction feeling stronger
A Life I'm Proud Of
When I’m not guiding women into deeper love and self-trust, I’m usually soaking up the joy of everyday life. I love hiking scenic trails with my husband, watching scary movies with my teenage daughters (while they pretend not to be scared), or getting creative through painting, photography, or baking something delicious from scratch.
The theatre is my happy place,I find such magic in the arts, and when I need a moment of grounding, you’ll find me curled up with my two cats, Atlas and Jasper, who’ve proudly earned me the title of “cat grandma.”
Beyond my work, I proudly serve as a UK UN volunteer delegate and have been honoured for my community contribution through my involvement with Solace Women’s Aid.
One of my dreams is to one day open a cat hotel by the sea, a little sanctuary for fur babies and their humans alike. Life is busy, beautiful, and full of meaning , and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Giving Back With Purpose
Compassion doesn’t end with coaching. 10% of all profits are donated to the Celia Hammond Animal Trust, supporting the rescue, protection, and rehabilitation of abused and endangered animals. Creating a safer world, whether for women, children or animals, begins with showing up for those who need care the most.
Best Selling Author
Co-author of The Woman I'm Becoming (2019) – where I shared my journey through trauma and recovery to inspire the next generation of women and girls.
Featured On BBC & Channel 4
Recognised for my work in children’s mental health and BAME representation in literature.
Endorced By David Walliams
For my dedication to children's emotional wellbeing.
Southwark Healthy Heroes Award Winner
For outstanding community contribution and women's advocacy.