Want to Know Where All the Good Men Are? Don't worry, I’ll Tell You...

You may not want to hear this... But the good men? They exist.

They’re around you every day. Hundreds of them...

But if your core belief is "all men are emotionally unavailable," then your brain’s going to keep filtering for exactly that.

It’s not magic. It’s science.

It’s called the Reticular Activating System (RAS), a part of your brain designed to reinforce your beliefs by spotlighting what aligns with them and ignoring what doesn’t.

So if your subconscious identity is built on heartbreak, neglect, and inconsistency, your RAS will literally block out any man who doesn’t fit that pattern. You won’t even notice the green flags.

The guy who texts back with intention? "He’s probably boring." The one who asks how you feel? "I’m just not feeling it."

Your system isn’t rejecting them. It’s protecting your current identity.

Inside the Secure Identity Method, we rewire that. So you don’t just say you want a good man, you feel safe choosing him.

Love isn’t about luck. It’s about what you’re wired to let in.

Here’s How to Start Shifting That Lens:

• Before your next scroll or date, pause. Ask: “What belief is my brain scanning to prove true right now?”

• Start a Reticular Rewire List: Track daily moments where men do show up emotionally available, even if it’s just a friend or colleague.

• Challenge boredom: If someone feels "too calm," lean in with curiosity instead of rejection.

If you’re ready to stop filtering out what you crave, apply to work with me. The Secure Identity Method rewires the beliefs your love life is built on.

Let me know in the comments if this helped x