Before I met my husband, I did something that everyone thought was weird (and kind of sad).

I watched movies and TV shows where men were deeply, unapologetically in love with their women.

And instead of crying about not having it, I trained my brain to believe I could.

Here's what I wasn't doing:

❌ Wallowing in "why doesn't this happen to me?"

❌ Making it mean I was unlovable

❌ Using it as evidence that secure love doesn't exist

Here's what I WAS doing:

✓ Watching my nervous system respond to seeing secure, devoted love

✓ Letting my brain create NEW neural pathways around what love could feel like

✓ Training myself to EXPECT to be loved well, not just hope for it

This isn't manifestation woo. This is neuroplasticity.

Your brain believes what you show it repeatedly.

If you've only experienced:

• Anxious, unpredictable love

• Performing to keep someone around

• Relationships that confirmed you're "too much"

Then your brain has ONE blueprint for love.

And it will keep recreating that blueprint, even when you're with someone different.

I had to give my brain a NEW blueprint.

So I deliberately exposed myself to images, stories, and examples of secure love.

Not to fantasise or escape, but to REWIRE.

To show my anxious identity: "See? This exists. This is possible. This is what we're creating."

And slowly, my nervous system started to believe it.

By the time I met my husband, I wasn't hoping for secure love.

I was expecting it. And I recognised it when it showed up.

Now I teach women how to do the same, but deeper.

Because watching rom-coms is a beautiful start.

But shifting your hidden identity story?

That's the transformation that makes secure love SUSTAINABLE.

If you're ready to stop hoping for secure love and start EMBODYING it,

Message me "REWIRE" and let's talk about shifting your identity from anxious to secure, and I invite you to try this exercise and make it a daily routine- you won't believe how quickly your inner lens shifts!